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How to make your husband more content

by Janet Denison
Tuesday, 03 July 2012
A smiling middle-aged man and husband doing housework cleaning the floor (Credit: Carabay via blog post today is the result of a study done by Cambridge UniversityThe study found that men who do a fair share of household chores are happier and more content.  When I asked Jim to take the trash out, I was able to honestly tell him that I was only asking because I want him to be more content, happier, and fulfilled with his life.  He didn't really buy it, but I have proof now.  Cambridge University says so.  I've made the study a link, because I want to make certain that all of you can go to the website and print out the proof you need to put your feet up and say, "You do it."  I'm hoping this post will earn me significant points with my new daughters-in-law.  I did my best - but my boys didn't really inherit my "clean genes."  I was lucky if they chose clean jeans.  My younger sister, Lori, who happens to be a professional counselor, has informed me I am borderline "OCD" when it comes to cleaning.  My family would probably agree.  I like things clean.  Really, really clean.  I think that is why I don't want a dog.  They can't be taught to flush, vacuum and wipe off counters.  Dogs eat stuff off the floor . . . but then, so did my two-year olds.  But my two year-olds probably could eat stuff off my floor.  Ok...I am a little OCD. 

Here is the point.  We want our men to be happy, content and fulfilled.  If they KNOW that housecleaning will lead to all of that, I'm certain they will want to do a little more around the house.  I have often said, "Nags are not born.  They are created."  I usually said that to whomever I was nagging at that moment.  But, just in case the Cambridge University study doesn't produce your desired results, I'll include a few biblical verses that prove this point.
1.  Hebrews 13:5 - "Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."  This verse gives you permission to get a maid because if you give up that money and hire the work done, you will be content.  If that doesn't work, tell them that God will never leave them, you on the other hand, will be home in a couple of weeks.  THAT ought to help!

2.  Psalm 16:2 - "I said to the Lord, "You are my Lord; apart from you I have no good thing."  Tell your husband that this verse will be displayed on your bathroom mirror unless he starts chipping in with the chores.  He may want to be considered "a good thing" too!

3.  If all else fails, THIS has to work.  Ecclesiastes 12:13 - "Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man."  Tell him that biblically speaking the commandments are the whole duty of "man."  Therefore, "thou shalt not murder" has a loop-hole for women.  I'm thinking your house should be cleaner in just a few hours!!!

Feel free to forward this blog post to anyone you feel needs the "wisdom" and perspective these words offer.  (But do me a favor and leave your pastor and Sunday School teacher off that e-mail.)  My by-line on the website is "Focusing on God's Word."  Needless to say - my "focus" was more the "use" of God's word as opposed to the actual "theology" of it.  Come to think of it - how do I take Jim off my blog list today???


0 # Marylyn Leonard 2012-07-03 11:49
I love a Christian with a good sense of humor. Christians that make non Christians smile have a lot better chance of gaining an opportunity to share the good news of salvation through Jesus Christ with them. Christians with a good sense of humor also have a lot better chance of spending time with me.
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0 # Janet Denison 2012-07-04 07:10
I'd hang with you any day Marylyn! Have a great fourth.
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0 # Kim Phillips 2012-07-03 12:39
I love this! As a single mom with an adopted son, I am failing miserably at keeping my house clean. Hopefully I will do better as he gets a little older and learns to help. However, I will make it a priority to use this message as needed when it applies and can be modified into son or child. It is my duty to bring him up to love the Lord and to be prepared to be a wonderful husband. I cherish all your help!
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0 # Janet Denison 2012-07-04 07:12
Thank you Kim. Blessings to you as your raise your son. Enjoy these days. They are so important - and so fun!!
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0 # Betty Alder 2012-07-03 20:19
Janet, I loved your blog. I realized that being a second grade teacher and single mom of three elementary children it was more important to read to my children before they went to sleep than it was to worry about a clean kitchen. My children soon learned to help me with the cooking and cleaning and we had a lot of wonderful times as they grew up and graduated from college. They are doing great and that clean kitchen wasn't all that important after all.
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0 # Janet Denison 2012-07-04 07:15
You are right about that clean kitchen. Between my boys and their friends, my kitchen stayed "open" most of the time! Those were fun days! But I do enjoy my clean kitchen now! Have a great fourth!
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0 # Don Poage 2012-07-04 06:17
Janet. Can't believe you got Jim to take his shirt off for the photo! And to think he used to be sooo buff. Oh well. We all get older....
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0 # Janet Denison 2012-07-04 07:17
Hi Don! You are so funny! Don't you just love this guy's grin? That picture makes me smile. I hope you are doing well.

Take care and tell all those Midland folks "hello" from us. And I'll pass your comment on to Jim!
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0 # carolyn foster 2012-07-05 10:29
As much as I cherish your Bible studies
I love your funny stories so much, & this one was great. Still miss you so much. Know you have had a really tough
year. Pray for Ryan & all of you.
Someone ask me what I do with my days, &
my answer was that I always start out with Janet & Dr. D. So I always have a better one. Love Carolyn
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